You ought to do things in group that you might not have done, if alone. Yesterday, while I was attending some Dussehra ceremonies in a temple, I found these guys with T-shirts carrying the captions : ‘Girls are like drugs…’ , ‘Wanna date with me?’ , ‘FCUK you’ etc. and I was really shocked to see guys wearing such clothes at a famous temple like this. They all were with their friends. And I believe, that it could be the only possible reason they’d wear such clothes. Why?? Did they wish to show their immense knowledge over girls and English Literature? Of course not !!! A few days back, I reread the book ‘How to win friends and..’ by Dale Carnegie. And the only phrase that came to my mind on looking these guys is the one used a hundred times in that book; and the line is : ‘Because it gave them their feeling of importance.’ These same guys if abused for their religion in some foreign place may actually prove themselves to be the greatest saint of the nation. Then why did they do it? Because that gave them a sense of doing something distinct, something courageous, something their friends would regard as ‘boldness’ , something that yields a sense of importance among their friends’ circle.
That reminds me of an article by Baxi sir, in which he wrote how students misbehave in class. Ever thought why it happens in college and not at school? Because, their group cheers them for doing the act, while in school it was jeered.
People tend to act bully or rowdy while in group, but they’d seem peaceful, if alone. They do it exactly for one reason – Bond banane ke liye. As that ‘bond’ thing gives them a sense of pride, a sense of importance.
You wouldn’t do a single thing, willingly, if it does not give you a sense of importance. Of course, your sense of importance might vary from others. One may get a sense of feeling by being a topper, the other might get by being an all-rounder, another might get by doing things other would hesitate to do and some other may get it by showing how careless he is. Absolutely! It can range from anything to everything. Just hope your sense of importance doesn’t come from the one I tried to point out. Cheers !!!!
